Tuesday, December 11, 2012

'Tis the Season

‘Tis the Season

Image courtesy of marin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

1. During the December holiday season, Do you
a. Go away to join other family?
b. Have holiday fun with immediate family?
c. Get to be alone with a lover?
d. Enjoy the peace and quiet and down-time of being with yourself?

B would be the answer here.  We have a lot of things we do with my immediate family and S' mother usually comes into town as well.  Throw in the toddler now and we stay pretty busy during the season.

2. What is your favorite holiday tradition or thing that you like to do every holiday season?

We have a couple.  One is that we celebrate on Christmas Eve with my paternal grandmother and her family.  It's always been nice because it stretched the Christmas gifts out over a few days and you had more time to visit.  I also have started hosting family at my house on Christmas Day, which should be fun.

3. You are walking down the street and a sexy person is standing with a sign that says “Kiss Me” and mistletoe hanging above their head.
1. Would you kiss that person? YES or NO
2. Why or why not?

Probably not, even if they were sexy.  I'm perfectly happy with S and don't feel like I need to kiss anyone else.

4. Santa made up his list and he has checked it twice. Turns out you are on the “naughty” list. What is the naughty thing you did that put you on that list?

Hmmm, well I often tie up my wife, that's pretty naughty.  I've been spanking her so that's all sorts of naughty as well.  That must be what did it.

5. For being naughty you have been locked in a room where you will be forced to learn about holiday cheer. You will have to watch 24 hours of a holiday movie, which movie would you choose to watch? (pick just one)
a. A Christmas Story
b. It’s a Wonderful Life
c. White Christmas
d. A Christmas Carol (original 1938 version or the 1992 Muppet version)

Every year S and I try and sit down and watch "It's a Wonderful Life" but I love "A Christmas Story" and would be happy to watch that on a loop.

Bonus: The holidays can be a hectic time of year, so much so that romance might take a back seat to festivities and such. Give us YOUR sexy tip for keeping away the “chill” and “heating up” the holiday season.

I'm giving S a "naughty stocking" this year, filled with all sorts of things that we'll enjoy in private.  It should be great for spicing things up around the holidays.  

Friday, December 7, 2012

Thanks for the Feedback

So my post the other day was a downer, no doubt about it.  A few days later life is a little better for me.  I have a job still, which I am thankful for, and I'm working out the logistics that were such a problem a few days ago.  I appreciate all of the feedback from people and the very kind words, they meant a lot to me.

Onto the blogging aspect of this, I'm not going to give up blogging entirely.  Over the last few months my blogging frequency has decreased, because of work, because of the picture snafu that really shook me up and other reasons.  I've also become really involved in writing and editing articles over at EdenFantasys magazine SexIs Social.  I know that I've mentioned I write articles before, but I've become more and more involved in that.  It's a good outlet for me and something totally different to what I do here.  I think things ebb and flow in life.  For awhile I was so bullish on blogging, and my work situation was so easy honestly, that I was posting 2-3 posts a day.  That's just not where my mind is at right now.  I'm still working on my e-book, because of this work situation and a nasty case of pneumonia I've been pushing it back.  So before I was focusing all of my writing energies on this blog and now they're divided between two other things.  I think I need to do some more short erotic pieces here, they are well received and usually help jump start me creatively, so you'll be seeing some of those over the next few weeks.

But I wanted to take a moment and say thanks to those that left a comment the other day, it meant a lot.  Now I'm going to take a weekend and recover and then get back to it.

Wednesday, December 5, 2012


For those of you who still read this blog I wanted to let you know I'm still around.  The last month has been trying and difficult, with the loss of a family member and then at work being given a choice of a different position in a different location or getting laid off.  Either way I'm not feeling particularly sexy at the moment.  I'm going to try and get a few posts up maybe this weekend, but I'm not really sure how this blog is going proceed.  It has been fun to do it, but I've been able to work on it so much because of what was an admittedly cushy work position I've been in.  And with the photo problems earlier this year my readership has plummeted so it makes me wonder, do I even go on?  I'm not asking for pity or fishing for compliments, but just wanted to let the loyal readers I have know what's going on.  Thanks, I hope you all have a great day.

Thursday, November 22, 2012

Happy Thanksgiving

Image courtesy of David Castillo Dominici / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I just wanted to take a moment and wish all of my fellow American friends a Happy Thanksgiving.  Thanksgiving has always been one of my favorite holidays, it's less about gifts and more about being with your loved ones and friends, and eating some really good food, so it's always a holiday I've been a fan of.  I thought I would very quickly list a few things I am thankful for this year.

-I'm thankful for this blog for providing me with an outlet to express my thoughts, feelings and desires when it comes to sex.  When I started this almost 18 months ago I didn't think I'd still be at it, or that so many people would have read my work and it has helped me grow as a writer and opened new opportunities for me.

-I'm thankful for you the reader.  You coming here and taking the time to read my material and leave comments is wonderful, and I can't adequately tell you how much you all mean to me.  When I debating closing this blog down earlier this year you all left such encouraging words that I had a new desire to continue on.  So thanks, you're what keeps me going.

-I'm thankful for "50 Shades of Grey" to be honest with you.  Yes the writing isn't great, but it is a huge hit and has opened the doors for many people to think about sex in a more open and positive light.  And also it has opened up people to reading more and more erotica, and since that is the primary focus of my writing I've been the beneficiary of that in some way, so I'm thankful for those books.

There are lots of other things I'm thankful for, but that will do for this post.  Thanks for reading, I hope you have a great holiday.  And if it's not a holiday for you, I hope you have a great Thursday!

Monday, November 19, 2012

Holiday Helper

Photo from: EdenFantasys

So for all of my American readers Thanksgiving is only a few days away.  For everyone else in the world it will be Thursday.  But here in the States Thanksgiving has become forever linked with Christmas.  Black Friday shopping officially kicks off the holiday spending seasons and it's the day after Thanksgiving.  I'll be braving the sales again this year, as we have for the past 8 years.  

I love the holidays.  Thanksgiving and Christmas are great to me.  One's all about food, and now that I have a little one Christmas is all about seeing his reaction.  During this time I'm reminded of all I have to be thankful for.  I have a great life really.  I may complain from time to time, but overall I have it made.  I have a great house, a wonderful wife, the best little kid and family and friends that I care about.  But not everyone is so fortunate and I am always aware of that.

We have always adopted an "angel" either through a program with local schools or elsewhere to help make sure at least one needy child has a brighter holiday.  We'll be doing that again, but I wanted to show something awesome that I hope some of you will participate in.  EdenFantasys is a great site that has all sorts wonderful adult toys.  They make great stocking stuffers for your special someone.  (Provided you're not opening gifts in front of the whole family.)  I'm actually making a big order this weekend of goodies for S as a sort of naughty/adult Christmas exchange we'll have.  But EdenFantasys wants to be involved in the community and are helping out those who are less fortunate this year.  

At EdenFantasys you can collect points by placing orders, adding items to your wishlist, rating products, participating in the forums, the list goes on and on.  Well those points can be used as credit to buy things from the site.  It's the best customer rewards program I've ever seen.  Well, for the next two weeks they are accepting donations that will go to different groups that will help out those who need it during the holiday season.  But they aren't asking for money, they're asking for points.  You can donate your points (1 point is equal to 1 cent) as a gift card and EdenFantasys will give those funds to the volunteers who will make a difference in some family's holiday season.  It's one of the easiest ways I've seen to help those who need it during the holiday season.  You can check out the Forum post here.  It doesn't have to be a lot, every little bit will help.  So if you're on the site and buying something, perhaps send a few points to someone, it will make a big difference.

So go out and be merry, have a great holiday season.  I'll of course be writing about holiday themed things over the next month, but for a moment I wanted to be serious.  Thanks for anything you give, I'll be doing my part as well.  Have a great holiday season!

Sexy Christmas gifts from EdenFantasys - the sex toys shop you can trust!

Friday, November 16, 2012

e(Lust) #41

Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you're looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it'll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #42? Start with the newly updated rules, come back December 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
The 2 weeks of my sex life I lost to Zoloft - "My G-spot felt non-existent. My clit felt numb. The masturbation didn’t hold my interest, and my mind wandered."
Baby Girl - "You fill me with a desire to learn so that I can teach you. I push you to trust yourself as I trust you."
Denial - "“Not yet,” he says, pulling both of my arms back, leaving my clit screaming for attention."
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Dangerous Lilly
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Thoughts: Contractual Considerations
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Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Challenging Sexy
Open Me Up
How this blog started
Speaking of NRE
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
How to Pack for a Con Rape Culture Rant
The Female Orgasm: A Brief History, Part 1
Kink & Fetish
Ball Gag Safety For Beginners
Choose one word to describe yourself
Drawing out hurt
Dirty, Nasty, Perfect
Evolution of a new fetish: veiling erotic
It was always a trap...
The Panty LoanWatersports: Not As Easy As It Sounds
Erotic Writing
A Writing Challenge - Blindfold
about to be devoured
Blow Me Away
Girls' Night Out
Hot Girls with Gay Bodyguards
Leaving You Wasted!
Lolita Twenty-Twelve, Part Sexeh and Sexbee
Vampire girl #14

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

Getting It Up

Hello my fellow TMI Tuesday junkies. Movember is in full-swing. I can’t wait to see those Mo’s a little later in the month. In the meantime here is a set of VERY fine TMI Tuesday questions from longtime blogger and frequent TMI Tuesday question contributor virtualsin.wordpress.com
If you don’t know what Movember is all about see previous TMI Tuesday posts or click here.

Some men who have been treated for Prostate Cancer are unable to get an erection.
1. If they were treated with surgery, the usual reason is nerve damage. They may have success with a penis pump. 
Question: Have you (or your partner) ever used a pump? Did it work? Was it a turn-on or a turn-off?
We've never used a penis pump.  I've always been curious about one, but have never tried it.  I've never really had a lot of problems with getting it up, but it's something we'll explore at some point, just because I'm curious.
2. If they were treated with radiation, the usual reason is damage to blood vessels. They may have good luck with Viagra or or one of the other impotence meds.
Question: Have you (or your partner) ever used Viagra, Cialis, or similar? Did it work? Any interesting side effects? Any 4-hour erections? Tell us how you made use of that ;-)
I think this might be a boring TMI for me this week.  We've never tried any of those drugs as of yet.  As my wife likes to joke, he gets hard so often you'd think I was on the medicine, but I'm not.  
3. Some men may opt for a penile implant. See http://www.urologicalcare.com/advanced-ed-treatments/types-penile-implants/. Do you have experience with a penile implant (as owner or lover-of-owner)? Did it work for you?
In all my depravity of scrolling through the Internet looking at things related to sex, I've never had exposure to a penile implant.  I think I'd heard of them before, but don't know much about them.  I'm all for them if it will help certain people maintain a normal lifestyle.
4. If they were treated with hormone therapy (e.g. Lupron Depot), they may also lose all libido. I can’t think of a good question, but if you have a story, please share.
I can't imagine losing my libido, it just seems impossible to me.  I know it's a possibility with these types of things, and I've seen others who go through phases with low to no libido, but it just seems very foreign to me at the moment.  I know that I'm lucky, and hope I never have to deal with something like this.
Some men diagnosed with Prostate Cancer change their diet or avoid certain foods.
5. Did you ever change your diet for health reasons? How did it work out? How long did you stay on the diet?
Okay this one is a little more in my wheelhouse.  I ate junk food all through college.  Fast food, pizza, all the normal things a college person would eat.  Well shortly after I got married I had some health issues.  They sent me for a CT scan and some other things and they found a fatty buildup around my liver that was a sign on being pre-diabetic.  I got scared and asked what I should do.  Working out and eating right were what were prescribed and so I changed my diet.  I still have pizza and some fast food, though not nearly in the quantities that I did.  And I've found myself to be much happier, and with more energy than I was before.
6. A man who has had his prostate removed does not ejaculate at orgasm. How would you react to a total lack of cum?
Now that would be very strange indeed.  As a guy, even though I've tried to learn about being multi-orgasmic, cumming is usually associated with ejaculation.  I would have a hard time mentally getting used to cumming without ejaculate.
7. Although removal of the prostate reduces the intensity of orgasm in the pelvic region, some men report orgasmic feelings in other parts of the body, some describing a “whole body orgasm.” How cool is that?
Okay this sounds pretty cool, although getting there would be hell, with prostate cancer and removal and all that.  It sounds very Tantra like, something I've been trying to explore over time.
8. Do you think a man treated for PRostate Cancer deserves a blow job? If yes, please email Virtual Sin aka SinnerMan…
I would think so.  Although I think most men deserve a blow job at some point for something.