Tuesday, July 1, 2014

TMI Tuesday 7/1


1. We learn from our mistakes. What sex or sexual mistakes have you made and learned from, What was the lesson learned?
Well over time I think one of the biggest things I've learned with S, is when to approach her for sex, and what way works best.  I used to approach her in different ways that wound up turning her off, and it took a long time for us to communicate and learn what was the right way to initiate.  Also, we tried some BDSM early in our marriage, but neither of us expressed ourselves truly, and it didn't work.  When we gave it a second go a few years ago, we communicated and it worked much better.
2. What risk (sexual or not) would you take if you knew you would not fail?
I would start a new business, one that I know would help people, but also be profitable for me as well.  I would actually open a high-end adult toys boutique, one designed for women to feel comfortable in.  I know that San Francisco has Good Vibes, and there are some other stores throughout the country that cater to this, but I would start a chain of stores where women would feel comfortable coming and looking at and buying adult toys.
3. At what time in your life have you felt most passionate and alive?
There have been several times when I've felt like this.  Your freshman year of college I think is like that for most people, just the vibrancy of being on your own.  For me that lasted a semester, then passed.  When S and I were first dating was also another time like that for me.  
But the one that sticks out the most to me is two years ago.  I was doing well with work, in great shape, our son was so much fun to be around (and still is), and S' and my sex life had never been better.  
4. What one piece of advice about sex would you offer the virgin you?
Be you, don't try to be someone you're not.  You'll be fine and there is someone who will be crazy about your "style."
5. What are you avoiding?
Deadlines, all sorts of deadlines.
6. By what age should you know what you want to do with your life?
Well I'm 34 and still figuring it out, so I guess a little bit older than this.  
Bonus: Do you think you’ve experienced true intimacy in a relationship?
Yes, S and I have definitely experienced true intimacy in our relationship, it is fantastic.
Some questions were adapted from 28 questions for a happy life.
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Monday, June 30, 2014

Beneath You

Source:  Fapnago

With a cry of release you push your crotch down atop my face once again.  Your body convulses and spasms and I feel the wetness of you coating my lips and flooding my mouth.  My hands are wrapped around your nipples, pinching down harder as I feel your release come over you.  I love when we do this, I love the feel of your body atop of me.  Your delicious taste entering my mouth, almost having sensory deprevation when you clench thighs around my face and ears.  I can hear the blood rushing in my ears, my pulse quickening as you moan and convulse above me.  

Your orgasm ebbs and your body falls down across my torso.  I hold onto your hips, not letting you move your sex away from my mouth.  I'm not nearly done with you yet.  Your mouth is near my throbbing organ, and I can feel the incredible warmth as you wrap your lips around my tip and I flick my tongue within you again, making you moan and I know the next round is beginning.  

Tuesday, June 24, 2014

TMI Tuesday: School Days

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Below is a list of academic fields of study. For as many of these disciplines as possible, share a memory. It could be something that happened in class, an Aha! moment, something about the teacher or something that was helpful later in life.
Thanks to virtualsin.wordpress.com for this week’s TMI Tuesday theme.
1. English- I realized that I was a writer in my AP English class, when in turning in an essay, I was the last one by far to turn in and I handed in 10 pages on one prompt.  The teacher was a bit flabbergasted!

2. History- My major in college, I remember being in AP US History and loving the "rhythm" that history has, and how everything is connected.  Something that happened in the 1830's is one of the causes of the Civil War 30 years later.  Still love that today.

3. Foreign Language (French, Spanish, Latin…)- I took Latin for two years in high school and liked it, probably in part because I had a crush on my teacher.  I went with her and the Latin club on a tour on Italy for my senior trip and it was incredible, still one of the best trips I've ever been on in my life.

4. Psychology- Thought I wanted to be a psychologist when I got to college, but after one semester decided it wasn't for me.  Later on I regretted it, I think I would have enjoyed it, and my shrink has said that it could have had to do with the professor, it was her first semester teaching, and the guy sitting next to me in the class died pretty violently during the semester.

5. Mathematics- Math is not my favorite subject, by far, but I enjoy algebra and such, especially for figuring out stuff in real life.  See, it does get used in real life situations.

6. Physics- Never actually took physics, but I like The Big Bang Theory.  

7. Chemistry- An interesting class, but one where I could have learned so much more I think, but my teacher was in his last year before retirement and really just mailed it in.  

8. Biology- Definitely showed me I wouldn't make it as a doctor, I always let someone else do the dissecting, and I did all the data entry.  Still squeamish looking at frogs today.

9. Gym- An aha moment occurred when I realized the working out with weights could assist me with soccer.  I'd never made that connection until my freshman year of high school, and it helped greatly through the rest of high school.
Bonus: Did you have sex education class in school? What grade or age did you have this class? Thinking back on the sex education class what was the most surprising thing you learned? Was this class helpful to you in your sex life?
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Wednesday, June 4, 2014

Getting Back In the Swing

So granted it was a few weeks since the last post, but nowhere near as long as it had been from the one previous to that.  I'm dipping my toes back into the blogging world slowly, and with this being summer I should have a little more time to get back in the swing of things.

A few quick things:

-I want to take a moment and say thank you to all of the people who sent messages through e-mail, this blog and Twitter welcoming back.  I have to say it was really nice to be missed, if that makes sense, and I'm glad there's still interest in my writings.

-I'm still investigating options for moving this blog.  Several of you have told me about the services you use, and now it's just a matter of doing the research and migrating everything.  Be assured, before I do it, I will make a big announcement and plaster the new address everywhere.

-I've actually been writing some erotica, so the next post you see will be a short story I wrote recently.  I'm going to be posting a good number of reviews as time goes on, but this started with my thoughts and writings, so that's where we'll begin again at.

That's it for this update, I will try and have my story up by tomorrow, so be looking for it.  Thanks again for reading!

Monday, May 19, 2014

Where Have I Been?

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"So who is this guy who's writing on a blog that's been dormant for a year and a half?  I thought he had fallen off the face of the Earth?"

I bet some of you are probably asking those questions right now as you read this, and to be honest I'm a much different man than I was when I was keeping up with this blog on a daily basis.  For now, how about we start with what I've been up for last year and a half.

When last we spoke with Hubby, he was married to a wonderful woman, with the coolest little boy.  He had a vibrant sex life with his wife, and blogged incessantly about it, while writing reviews of all the fun toys they were trying out.  Then life decided to drop a couple of bombs on me.  

First, in the summer of 2012 I had some trouble with photos on this blog.  I had attributed everything I put on the blog, but that wasn't sufficient and some mild legal threats were made, which scared me to no end and I removed all of the photos on my blog basically.  To be honest it really put a cramp in my writing style, when blogging I would often find a really hot photo, usually from Tumblr (there's a link to my Tumblr page, just some things I like) and then I'd come up with a story from there.  Being scared to use those images any longer, my blogging ideas really dried up.  I had some other writing irons in the fire, but nothing I was ready to share with the public.  So my blogging started to tail off a bit.  

Then came the fall of 2012, which could also be renamed "The Dark Times."  I don't mean to be melodramatic, but it certainly felt that way at the time.  During the fall, my wife had a new boss who could have been a star in the movie "Horrible Bosses" from a couple of years ago.  That made things difficult to be sure, but we were coping.  Extra back rubs for her after work, you know the usual.  Then I lost a very close family member.  It wasn't entirely unexpected, she hadn't been in the best of health, but it was still devastating.  And there began a little of bit of mourning/depression for Hubby.  

Thanksgiving goes by and December comes along, as it usually does.  I was dealing with a nasty case of bronchitis when my company announced a new President, who promptly came to town and let me know my position in the company was being eliminated.  Done, gone, fin.  Here was my severance package, a few weeks before Christmas.  Or, I could take the job of someone who had just resigned, a position I had held a few years prior and absolutely hated, but I would stay employed.  Having a wife, a mortgage, a son, I did what I had to do and took the position.  But we remember that mourning/depression feeling I was having before?  Well it exploded, and crippled me.  I'll be honest here and admit something that very few people know, but I have suffered from panic attacks/anxiety/mild depression for around 15 years.  I've been on medication, have seen a therapist and for a time I was doing so well that I was able to go off my medication for a few years.  But these events sent me into a tailspin.  I couldn't even get out of bed for a few days.  I even briefly thought about going to a mental hospital and admitting myself I was so scared.  

So that is when this blog went off the rails and was never heard from again.  When something like that hits, to be honest, sex is the last thing on your mind.  Which totally sucked, because until then my sex life with S had never been better, it was incredible.  But that all changed.  

As the New Year dawned, I got some new medication, sucked it up and started putting my life back together. In the grand scheme of things it wasn't so bad, I still had a job, I could still put food on the table, we were paying our bills, and in comparison to things on the news life wasn't so bad.  My spirits began to look up.  And even more so when S and I found out we were expecting our second little bundle of joy.  For 10 years we had been uber careful about birth control, and still were, except something neither of us were ever told.  After a woman has a child, her ovulation window is much longer than it was prior to her first child.  So at a time when we thought we were in the clear, S was still fertile and my little guys get the job done, so 1+1=3 now.  

Our second little boy was born in the late summer of 2013, on Labor Day Weekend no less.  No the irony of S being in labor on Labor Day weekend was not lost on either of us.  So now we're a family of 4 and I am incredibly lucky.  I have a great wife and two boys.  My job is better than it was, I was able to change some things around to make it more conducive to me and I've made it work pretty well.  I'm not in my old office, where I could blog all day, but it's alright.

So that catches you up on where I've been.  For those of you who reached out through Twitter, or e-mail, or at a sex toy site I used to contribute a lot to but don't anymore (side note, I came back to find all of that so different it was wild) I truly appreciate the messages, they really meant a lot to me; once I read them.  Some I didn't see until 6 months or so after you'd left them, but I appreciate each one.

Now, let's talk about where we're going with this blog, and elsewhere.  Before my 19th Nervous Breakdown (as S and I refer to it) I had been actively writing for a sex toy website, contributing articles, editing articles, editing reviews and contributing sex toy reviews as well.  Because of things changing I am going to strike out on my own now.  

-I still love sex toys (I mean who doesn't, right?) but I want to able to control all of my writings and follow my own schedule.  So I'm going to do that, because I can.  I will be rewriting and re-imagining reviews I've done in the past and publishing them here.  No, I'm not going to be lazy and just repost reviews I've done, I want to get back in the swing of things and I think the best way would be to jump back in and re-review all of the things I'd done in the past.  Now, I won't have all the latest and greatest toys on the site, yet, (we're paying double day-care and feeding what can only be classified as future offensive lineman, this baby will eat anything you put in front of him, twice if he could.)  I'll review what we've had, and the some of the things we've managed to pick up along the way during the last year of sleepless nights, (this little one has a thing for 3:30 AM movies, let me tell you.) but as we go along hopefully we'll have some new toys to review.  Most of these toys are designed for females, and S always graciously volunteers to be the guinea pig for these exhaustive tests that I do.  I think because she's a saint and because she loves the orgasms that come with the tests I think.  So we'll go through that and then expand as we go on.

-I have finally felt the urge to write sexy stories again after a year and a half of not feeling it at all, so I'm going to do that.  As far as pictures go with that, I'm open to suggestions as to what to do there.  I've found some free images, but nothing as hot and fun as what I'd been having before, and I'd like to find some (legal) way to get images of that sort back on the blog.

-Also when the Breakdown hit I was about halfway through my first erotic novel, which has sat on my iPad, collecting metaphorical dust for awhile, but now is getting going again.  I had talks with a couple of erotica publishers before the breakdown, but the landscape has changed since I stopped writing, and now I'm debating about where to go.  Self-publishing looks to be my best route right now, and any authors out there that I've talked with in the past, feel free to share your best bets and tips, I'll owe you big time.  Once the novel is completed I'm going to post a few snippets here on the blog and get some feedback.

-I also want to write some topical articles on sex and our society, kind of like I was doing before on the other site, but updated and on my own terms.  It's something I'll experiment with over time and your feedback will help me determine where to go with this.

-Also, I'm debating about self-hosting this blog.  I saw some of the furor about adult blogs and such, and it seems that many of you have moved to self-hosting and again, I would appreciate any tips and tricks you might have.  

-I also think when (if, but more likely when) I move I want to do a rethink of the layout and have dedicated sections for toy reviews, lingerie reviews, stories, articles, book excerpts, etc.  Let me know what you think about this, and what you'd like to see on this blog.  I can't say that I'll be posting everyday, but it certainly not be 18 months before I post again!

Finally, thank you to everyone who still has read this blog over the last three years since I've began it.  It began for one reason and has morphed several times, and each time for the better I like to think.  Here's to 3 more years, with a lot more posts!

-Hubby (Henceforth known as J)

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

'Tis the Season

‘Tis the Season

Image courtesy of marin / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

1. During the December holiday season, Do you
a. Go away to join other family?
b. Have holiday fun with immediate family?
c. Get to be alone with a lover?
d. Enjoy the peace and quiet and down-time of being with yourself?

B would be the answer here.  We have a lot of things we do with my immediate family and S' mother usually comes into town as well.  Throw in the toddler now and we stay pretty busy during the season.

2. What is your favorite holiday tradition or thing that you like to do every holiday season?

We have a couple.  One is that we celebrate on Christmas Eve with my paternal grandmother and her family.  It's always been nice because it stretched the Christmas gifts out over a few days and you had more time to visit.  I also have started hosting family at my house on Christmas Day, which should be fun.

3. You are walking down the street and a sexy person is standing with a sign that says “Kiss Me” and mistletoe hanging above their head.
1. Would you kiss that person? YES or NO
2. Why or why not?

Probably not, even if they were sexy.  I'm perfectly happy with S and don't feel like I need to kiss anyone else.

4. Santa made up his list and he has checked it twice. Turns out you are on the “naughty” list. What is the naughty thing you did that put you on that list?

Hmmm, well I often tie up my wife, that's pretty naughty.  I've been spanking her so that's all sorts of naughty as well.  That must be what did it.

5. For being naughty you have been locked in a room where you will be forced to learn about holiday cheer. You will have to watch 24 hours of a holiday movie, which movie would you choose to watch? (pick just one)
a. A Christmas Story
b. It’s a Wonderful Life
c. White Christmas
d. A Christmas Carol (original 1938 version or the 1992 Muppet version)

Every year S and I try and sit down and watch "It's a Wonderful Life" but I love "A Christmas Story" and would be happy to watch that on a loop.

Bonus: The holidays can be a hectic time of year, so much so that romance might take a back seat to festivities and such. Give us YOUR sexy tip for keeping away the “chill” and “heating up” the holiday season.

I'm giving S a "naughty stocking" this year, filled with all sorts of things that we'll enjoy in private.  It should be great for spicing things up around the holidays.  

Friday, December 7, 2012

Thanks for the Feedback

So my post the other day was a downer, no doubt about it.  A few days later life is a little better for me.  I have a job still, which I am thankful for, and I'm working out the logistics that were such a problem a few days ago.  I appreciate all of the feedback from people and the very kind words, they meant a lot to me.

Onto the blogging aspect of this, I'm not going to give up blogging entirely.  Over the last few months my blogging frequency has decreased, because of work, because of the picture snafu that really shook me up and other reasons.  I've also become really involved in writing and editing articles over at EdenFantasys magazine SexIs Social.  I know that I've mentioned I write articles before, but I've become more and more involved in that.  It's a good outlet for me and something totally different to what I do here.  I think things ebb and flow in life.  For awhile I was so bullish on blogging, and my work situation was so easy honestly, that I was posting 2-3 posts a day.  That's just not where my mind is at right now.  I'm still working on my e-book, because of this work situation and a nasty case of pneumonia I've been pushing it back.  So before I was focusing all of my writing energies on this blog and now they're divided between two other things.  I think I need to do some more short erotic pieces here, they are well received and usually help jump start me creatively, so you'll be seeing some of those over the next few weeks.

But I wanted to take a moment and say thanks to those that left a comment the other day, it meant a lot.  Now I'm going to take a weekend and recover and then get back to it.